TLIK – Your confusion leaves me baffled. Steak and ice cream? I would expect a lot more respect for them from you. And with all you do know about people and the system, I can’t really fathom why you aren’t understanding this. I know I have said several times already that this has little to do with money. I would go so far as to say that this has *nothing* to do with money. It is about validation and confrontation. And they don’t just ‘have benefits’, they are the impetus for healing. ESPECIALLY since so much of the damage came from being lied to, denied, ignored, left unprotected and INvalidated. They were told by people close to them that letting adults close to them destroy them repeatedly was either a myth, or their own problem. Do you really not get what the point of this is?
Perhaps this will help give clarity – My friend became really sick and while unconscious suffered the amputation of both legs. There were many emergency decisions made and he just wanted to know what happened while he was unable to advocate for himself. Because nobody wanted to “throw anyone under the bus” the health care team was not always forthcoming. Even tho there was NO suspicion of negligence, he sued the hospital (or doctors perhaps) just so he could get the whole story, the truth, the facts. Period. He had to sue them for damages, knowing he might not get any because there was no negligence, because that became the ONLY means to get the facts, the truth, the players and the backstory. Does that help?