Ubiq- i really don’t think he said that at all (and I’m surprised to see you putting words in someone’s mouth). We’ve discussed this before somewhere, so pardon the repetitioncz, now IS the time to talk about being careful, more than just careful, but it is not our place to surmise or judge what those victims did or didn’t do. It’s a chutzpah to surmise, without having been there yourselves, and point fingers.
The second point of forgetting who really calls the shots, well that’s just our wishful thinking. Hishtadlus should not be confused with control.