Reply To: Your 21 year old son may be ready for marriage

Philosopher – The reason why litfishe bochurim marry at 24 while chasidishe marry younger is because in the litfishe Yeshiva system (which is geared to teach bochurim how to learn, not just robotic blatt memorization) is about 3 years post bais medrash post high school and then 1-2 years in EY and BMG freezer, which brings them to 23-24.
Joseph – see Kiddushin 29b הא לן והא להו. In short, if your learning won’t be disrupted by being married you should marry at 18, but if you are like most people who have obligations to their family which will take you away from learning then בן י”ח לחופה doesn’t apply to you