Yossel Pupek, there are Chassidishe masmidim and metziunim learning in Chassidishe yeshivas and talmidei chachumim who actually “know how to learn” as you put it and there are also Yeshivishe (I think Litvish is the wrong term as the majority of so-called Litvishe are not Litvaks, they do not shtam from Litvishe families at all…) who hutzka around and have a lot of fun in EY while they are supposed to be shteiging away so there goes the “years in EY”… There is no “everyone is like this here and everyone is like that there” reality.
And a boy can learn in kollel after marriage as most Chassidishe do. The money that Yeshivishe spend on relatively “older” boys and girls relative to Chassidishe boys and girls getting married at an earlier age, is costs a bomb for Yeshivishe parents. Yeshivishe girls go to sem in Israel and then college and boys are learning till they start shidduchim at age 24 and beyond…while Chassidishe young women, generally married at age 18-21, are working in offices supporting their young families while the husbands are shteiging AND REALLY LEARNING (hopefully actually…but the possibility is there if one wants it) in kollel while the shver gives pennies ($200 or so monthly ) or nothing to the couple accordingly to Yeshivishe parents who generally “supports” couples long term …
After the couple has a kid or two (in ah gitte shu…) the Chassidishe husband goes to work as it says in the kesubah it is the husband’s chiav to provide for the wife not vice versa. And it’s the wife’s job to bring up the kids! If a woman wants to work and has the right kind of job job where she can be home when her child comes home from work then that’s fine too- the family doesn’t revolve around the mother’s job/career.
And back to the learning issue, what about the Yeshivishe living in EY who generally start shidduchim at age 21? They don’t learn, only robotically memorize gemara?
I’m not a man so I can’t say for sure but I believe talmidei yeshiva learn according to their abilities and preferences, some with memorization and some by deep analysis. In all yehsivas I believe, certainly in Chassidishe, there are different shuirim and maggidei shurim who delve deep or skim through and certainly are in kollel one can choose chavrusas according to the way thry want to learn. There’s something for every type of learner in yeshiva unlike in frum girls schools where almost EVERYTHING is REALLY taught by memorization.