Reply To: Yeah, I know you meant well but…

Mount: I definitely feel your pain. Even for non working boys there’s those things that your just treated younger even if ur 28. For example gelila is usually given to kids or younger people. Now, it happens to be that its a zechus to do it. But the minhag became that its given to younger. So there could be a shul full of married guys 22 and a single guy 28. The 28 year old will often get it. Now that’s a bit embarrassing. A friend of mine whose 30 told me he davens in a place where he’s the only bochur and the married guys aren’t old. He told me he got gelila EIGHT TIMES IN A ROW. EMBARRASSMENT.

So all singles out there, were all in this together. Sometimes people aren’t as considerate as they should be. They don’t usually realize it. So we should be Dan lkaf zchus. Also, we should accept this as part of the nisayon. It’s hard. But it’s like any nisayon.