Shulchn Aruch, Even HaEzer 21:1
I asked you for the quote source in MY post where I said that I was “militantly against a Torah Jew trying his best to adhere to the S”A” You can’t, because I didn’t. But nice try answering a different question instead.
Do you insist a Jew should buy second seat rather than making a seat change request to sit next to a family member, away from a baby or closer to the exit to quickly catch his connecting flight leaving shortly after arrival of the current flight?
The conversation was about buying a seat instead of holding up a flight or making others move seats (with or without their consent). To that I answer absolutely. I never condone putting out others for your personal benefit, religious or otherwise. Your time is not more valuable than theirs and even the Torah doesn’t get rolled in front of the kehillah for that very reason. So yes, yes.
And do I stick to it in real life as well? yes.
My father insisted no pictures be taken at my siblings wedding while the guests sat around and waited. We forfeited many things in the name of keeping others from being inconvenienced. Our blood is not redder and our mitzvos are not more valuable. I was raised that way and I raise my children that way.
I once sat at a pharmacy 30 minutes before licht bentching waiting for antibiotics. I had already been there for an hour and was waiting impatiently, davening to get home before shkia. Some guy in my community waltzes in at this 30 minute point to get blood sugar strip refills. He started yelling at the pharmacist who told him it would be a 20 minute wait. He threatened her with every “its my religious holiday and you can’t make me late” story he could think of at the top of his lungs. Had she given in to mr. narcissist, I, who waited for over an hour, would have had to walk home in the snow.
Joseph, Torah observance is not about “bishvili” only. Sometimes its about being that speck in the universe.