Libbi do you really believe that calling all Americans “shoitim” and not “orthodox” is going to make us support your argument?
The average American girl will not go out with a boy age 18-20. 99% of boys age 18-20 are beyond immature and not ready to get married. You can blame it on the “Goyishkeit that seeped into the Yeshivish system” all you want but it doesn’t change the reality that these boys simply are not ready this young.
Side point, The American Gedolim don’t support boys dating this young. Why does it matter what the Gedolim in EY say? This is in no way to denigrate their gadlus and chashivus in any way chas vshalom, but we have our leaders here who don’t agree with this.