Briefly –
My comment was this:
“even you must admit that your advance condemning and expectations of horrible behavior is wrong al pi halacha”
in response to his saying this, BEFORE any comments were made:
“so expect a litany of excuses here why this aveira is okay and why this aveira (pritzus and whole list of worse things) “really” isn’t such an aveira. Or that one day a year is okay to take a break from not doing aveiros.”
I have been taught that expecting bad things from yidden in advance is halachically wrong. Until you had a problem with it it never occurred to me there was a differing opinion. Hope that answers your question.