Here is something more intelligent in case anyone is interested.
Rabbi Shaya Ostrov says,
“I know boys who are languishing…
who don’t know how to develop a relationship.
Guys develop the ability to create a relationship during marriage.
>>>>>>>> It’s not a statistical issue. <<<<<<<<<<
Both in Lakewood and the Upper West Side, there are people who have been dating for 20 years. They have not developed the skills to be married. With every passing date, their ability to get married decreases. Couples while they’re dating need an enormous amount of guidance. We need to teach young men how to develop emotionally in early years of schooling … how to understand relationships, how to understand drives. … Kalla and Chosson teachers should be teaching how to create relationships that endure for a lifetime – solid programs that have proven themselves to be helpful. We need to teach people about anxiety and panic which have a very serious effect on relationship”
That quote is from an hour long video on the Shidduch crisis that used to be on YWN around 1.5 or 2 years ago. link removed
Unfortunately, YWN put Rabbi Ostrov at around an hour into the video, so I would guess that very few people heard what he had to say.
As far as the original poster goes, instead of posting on YWN, please go spend some money on an appointment with Rabbi Ostrov, so he can explain it to you. And may you be zoche to build a bayis ne’man B’yisroel B’karov.