I just read the earlier texts. Shaving is a machlokes Haposkim as is whether one could carry in the Borough Park Eruv. You could say that the meikilim are mistaken, that they are being too lienient, but you can’t call them REFORM, because they aren’t IGNORING Shas u’poskim. I don’t see how that’s relevant to whether one could ignore a UNANIMOUSLY-ACCEPTED chiyuv d’oraisa. Based on your logic that we let everything slide, even Reform Jews should be OK in your book, because, heck, we also shave etc.
Before calling the age-gap reality a “hoax,” please contact the economists who have written extensively regarding the marriage-squeeze which is caused by an age-gap and population growth, which is common in South Asa. Maybe you can explain to them why their theories are wrong and a hoax. Tell them that their studies are really based on some yungerman living in Queens who is half their age.