I may be “insane.” I may be “brazen.” But I am not the topic of conversation. Let’s get back to the issues.
The fact is that it is assur to rely on the Psak of anyone who has any personal interest (even indirect) Even an Amora who had a personal interest was ignored. Once there are family businesses, we are dealing with businessmen. That is what halacha tells; there is nothing brazen about this claim. There is no Teshuva defending the practice. To the contrary, the major Poskim have said that it is assur to listen to anyone who advises you to delay. This is all regarding the basic halacha of getting married before 20, which isn’t merely a recommendation: each DAY after 19 is an additional bittul mitzvahs aseh (See the Chofetz Chaim’s Nidchei Yisrael chapter 25), just like not eating matzah on the night of Pesach. The only difference is that chazal tell us that if you don’t try to get married before 20 you are chayuv misa. Many, many sefarim quote this chazal. None of them say that chazal are exaggerating. The first to say a word against this chazal in the past 2000 years are the people who responded on this blog.
Regarding the Aguna-crisis, Rav Gershon Edelstein, Rav Aharon Leib and Rav Chaim wrote a sharply-worded, blistering letter regarding those businessmen. You can find the letter online. If you don’t like the contents of that letter, take it up with this Gedolim who a) were born in Europe, b) have no bias, c) are real Gedolim (not merely occupiers of prestigious positions).