k while i do feel ur pain, OP, allow me to explain pls… 1st of all, for a lot of girls, a few months of support aint gonna cut it cuz they wanna marry long term learners… who wont be going into business for 5+ years… but never mind that, sometimes girls feel that they waited this long (however many years) to find their bashert and dont feel they shud be giving in in what they consider such a big way… perhaps we shud be starting with the high skwl girls and teaching them how ppl are dif and ppl change and we dont all need to marry the same guy who grew up mad yeshivish… one more point- i think guys need to realize how painful it is for a girl when all her friends are getting married one by one n nothing is coming for her… whether or not she goes out… they dont want to be causing the shidduch crisis at all!!! ty for understanding, may Hashem bentch u and ur friends with ur basherts bkarov!!!
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