Me too. It is so easy to find faults with others. If we are struggling with hatred for others the best we can do for them is to pray for them. If our ranting will not have an affect on others then let us trust our Loving Father that He will take care of us and is handling the situation as He sees best. What we CAN do is to pray for them and increase Ahavas Yisroel. Let us emerge from ‘the dislike of the unlike mode’ to the ‘like of the unlike mode’. This can only be achieved through positive actions and holding ourselves back when wanting to criticize. If we hold ourselves back because we want to do Hashem’s will this is equivalent to doing positive actions. In fact it is worth even more. See rabeinu Yonah (Shaarei teshuva 3 7 ) where he explains a most bizarre statement חביבין דברי סופרין יותר מיינה של תורה. The gist of what he says is that the tachlis of Torah and Mitzvos is to enhance our Yiras Shamayim. Every Takono of Chazal is to ensure we do not encroach on an IssurMin Hatorah. So at the root of all Takanos Derabanan is Yiras Shamayim which is the purpose of the whole Torah. When a person refrains, because of his Yiras Shamayim, from doing or speaking something which he has a strong urge to do he has actively been practicing Yiras Shamayim which is the ultimate purpose of the whole Torah. He has thus hit Bullseye!
Wishing you all holy brothers Siyata Dishmaya and srenity to do His will and we should be zocheh to see the end of this Tzoro very soon and experience the Geula Shleima bekorov Mamash.
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