This reminds me of a story my rebbe told me once. My rebbe once had to attend a more modern type of simchah (can’t remember if it was a bar mitzvah or wedding), with lots of fancy lights and all of that. All of a sudden some (if I recall correctly) non-frum jew comes to him and says, “Rabbi, you Yeshiva guys don’t need the fancy lights and loud music. You guys have RUACH!”
The story truly is beautiful, but even if we scale down the weddings and all (which we should), lemaisah it’s important to note there’s still a mitvah to be sameiach the chosson and kallah, and we shouldn’t have these weddings be EXACTLY the same way after this blows over. I mean, I imagine even in the shtetl in Europe people were able to dance with their closest friends/family members!