The title doesn’t match the OP. The title is “how did we handle,” while the OP asks how it affected us. I don’t know of a way to measure how we handled it other than through anecdotal evidence, which can be misleading. In theory, it’s pretty straightforward to answer the question of how it affected us. We just have to have sufficient testing. In NY, about 9% of the population has been tested for the virus; in NJ it’s somewhat less. I haven’t seen stats on antibody testing, and presumably such stats would be suspect because the FDA blew it and allowed bogus antibody tests for a while.
It’s hard to compare the frum community in the NY/NJ area to the non-Jews. The African American community was hit hard for a number of reasons that don’t apply so much to the frum community: they work in service jobs with a lot of contact with the public, they have worse access to health providers, and I believe they have a higher incidence of comorbidities like hypertension and diabetes.