Dear Thelittle,
Excellent post! It is a frightening to me, how people often avoid this discussion. As if being ‘a learning boy’ solves everything by itself.
I have two quibbles with your sixth point.
– Yiras Shomayim is a life long mission that the majority does not excel at. It is very difficult to pair up young people that way. The main divide to me is familial relationships. Some want to stay strongly attached to their families, some want to move on. Also, some will bridge their family to their spouse’s family. Sometimes, they will both be a very involved with only one family.
-As far as I know, “extreme erudition in Shas” will just about guarantee Yiras Shomayim as well as excellent middos. It will not guarantee a mainstream worldview. Being ‘a top bachur’ or mastering one mesechta does not guarantee anything. There is still a lot of learning to put in.
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