By boys delaying to listen to Shidduchim at age 21 they cause more than 10% per grade per year of the Bais Yakov girls to stay single R”L. In the entire Charadi world boys are in Shidduchim by age 21. Chasidim & followers of the Chazoin Ish are in Shidduchim at age 18. (In EY an 18 year old boy is already being trained to fight the Sonai Yisroel.)
Is it only the American Yeshivish (Shoitim) that are not ready till 23, or is it American Goyishkeit that allows them to transgress the Avairos Chamuros involved in delaying Shidduchim till whenever they feel like?
See Saifer Nidchai Yisroel par. #25, written by the Chofets Chaim. He states that every day that a boy refuses to listen to Shidduchim (past age 20) he is Mevatel a Mitzvas Asaih.
If u want to learn get married and learn Torah Be`Tohara. Kollel is a standard in our times.
Libbi
Menu