Dear Syag,
You have a point. But if you would make the bet, every time a yeshivish dress meets a modern one, you would be broke.
Everyone knows someone from the other group that does not fit the stigma at all, and can be a role model for both types.Yet, our brains are trained to put differences with different patterns. (I am trying to say that even though I do not believe I am better, I instinctively identify with more familiar patterns as superior.)
Either way, I think Huju can relax a bit.