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flatbush, I don’t have anything against the girls starting later.
But how is that going to be implemented?
Are we making girls’ schools continue for another few years? What’s the solution that you are suggesting?
Once girls are out of school what are they supposed to do besides get married? And will they push off the shadchanim when they come with suggestions?

Also hashkafically I’m not sure that the answer would be for everyone to start later. The Jewish way is to get married young. Delaying marriage is not something Hashem wants us to do.

Disclaimer: With this thread I am not contesting the undisputable fact that Hashem runs the world and all girls should have bitachon that Hashem can make them get married no matter what and noch to the best boy in the yeshiva (Whole other discussion as to what’s considered the best boy and whether every girl needs to marry the best boy etc.)
But I am looking at the hishtadlus perspective which is a chiyuv on us as a community.

I think if everyone realizes that for every one of their sons who delay shidduchim, one of their daughters, nieces, or granddaughters, might have to suffer for that decision.

No one is immune to it. You may think you’re rich or well connected or etc etc.
And it won’t happen to you.
But it can happen to anyone.
Even if you don’t care about other people’s families, do it for your own!