It’s probably too late but I never responded to your post. The short answer is that my kids maga hat and trump mask were to support having trump in office. Making sure my kids voted before leaving town was to keep trump in office. Much of the fanfare I experiences was to keep him in office. And if I would have joined a car parade it would have been for the same reason.
This:
When bein gavra l’gavra, by kiddush and shabbos meals, when our kids are around we sit and say what a king he is and even laugh at his latest insults to others. On and on… b’kum v’aseh
Is not something I ever witnessed, or heard about. If you actually did have that experience, I would say it speaks out alot less about Judaism and alot more about who you have chosen to spend your time with.
Good shabbos