If a new non-gebrocht family member, usually a son-in-law, comes to his gebrocht in-laws for Pesach, the proper act is to be mattir neder and eat with them. Gebrochts did not exist before the late 18th century. It is not found in shas, rishonim and early acharonim. The slow creep of non-gebrochts from a minhag to the border of a declaration of spiritual superiority is shameful. It is chutzpah, arrogant and yuhara for the son-in-law to demand non-halachic changes from his new family in order to satisfy his own minhagim. Mi samo? In your own house, he can eat how he wants. As a guest, he should show respect.
The Rosh Yeshiva of Mir recently told his talmidim to stay in Eretz Yisrael for Pesach and to be mattir nedarim on their personal home minhagim. So should the young tachshit.
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