Lakewhut -“I’m having a hard time feeling the tzaar from the tragedy which took place in meron.”
This is a common phenomenon.
They say when you practice medicine – there’s 3 words – apathy, empathy, sympathy.
It goes from Not caring to too much.
When you’re involved in the situation – there’s so much pain – it’s very easy to be sympathetic.
Apathy is Sinas Chinum.
The best thing is to be Empathetic.
That means that you’re concerned about the victim and do anything to help them.
This is the correct way to feel.
If you’re the type that always becomes sympathetic, eventually you become Apathetic!
To answer your question – years ago we had a neighbor that went to the Kenniseya Gedola in EY.
I think that it was around 1980.
And the crowds weren’t controlled.
On the way in, there was Big pushing – so much so he couldn’t Breathe!
He thought that was the end.
What happened next – he saw an indentation in the fence – he went in and it saved him!
But the reason my whole family remembers this Story, because he repeated it – time after time.
The same thing with any injury, if you see something like a bad car accident & s/o says he would have lived if he was wearing a seatbelt!
And you repeated this many times, you’d never Not wear a seatbelt in a Car!