-throughout TaNach and Chazal
Any classical sources? It sounds odd. And to my little knowledge, there are classical sources to imply almost the reverse. But more specific, who gets to decide which incidents were specific to avoiding greater tragedy? Also, it means that someone who never met the departed is confidently telling the mourners, “this was a very lofty individual, you just totally did not realize until this very public tragedy”. Which just adds to the sense of having missed out on appreciating the shortened life of their son/Ibrother/husband. And it takes away some more privacy, in what is already a lot of exposure for a young mourning family.