Tochacha must be done in tactful manner, so if you don’t know how, you will do more harm than good, yotzo sechora behefseda. The holy Shlah explains the passage אל תוכיח לץ פן ישנאך when admonishing someone, don’t call him a letz, a fool to hate you, הוכיח חכם ויאהבך call him a chacham, a wise one to love you.
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