Common – i hope mechilla was included in there. To your point, I felt your real topic got lost when it shouldn’t have. It is really so crucial and important. I sat shiva 3 times in 5 plus years and B”H never witnessed anything like that. I did develop a sense, tho, of how important it is to be focused on the availing, and how painful it can be for many of the ‘visitors’ who are suffering in their own way from the loss as well.
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