GH,
You are an out and out liar. I do not for a moment believe you have seen any of the following occur by people bnei torah call chashuv. Perhaps people of your ilk, who you might consider choshuv (you even call yourself a Gadol! And you are clearly the furthest from that.)
“I have been to levayahs where the hesped is more about the person giving the hesped than the niftar, shidduchin where the mesader kidushin stumbles over the brachos because he was “mesamach” choson v’kallah before the festivities officially began.”