Reply To: attention

“maybe people realize that sometimes giving attention to those who crave it may create a pattern of emotional dependency where they keep coming back to you for more in desperation”

I would hear that but it doesn’t make sense that people tell others “shh. he’s just doing it for attention.” Are they that considered about others being the attention-seeker’s desperation korban?
Also, they’ll say things like “Don’t do xyzzy, if u want attention, say “I want attention.” That sounds like their just being balei gavia like user176 said, that they have to prove they know the motive behind everyone’s actions.

“Like that friend that always makes the joke and immediately looks at you to see your reaction. Not everyone enjoys that”
Spot on! But i feel ppl are more likely to give a chesed laugh to a stupid joke than give attention to someone seeking it. And i never heard someone say, “don’t laugh at his stupid joke.” if they don’t want to laugh, fine, they’re not stopping anyone else from it.