attention

“Everyone wants attention”
Why is that?

“eople who brush others off as “wanting attention” are just proud of themselves that they know how to read people. If they really cared they would simply give the person the attention they thought he was seeking.”
The point I was making. Plus they’re often wrong.
I just don’t know why attention was the thing so zoiche to this.

Huh participant? Is that sarcasm or what? I can’t figure t out.

But u asked a good question. let me explain. the root of attention might be immaturity (n, immature= adj) but so what? IF someone does something normal because of immaturity u don’t have to call him out on it. Bad stuff because of immaturity does have to be stopped. So jumping on a chair and screaming in class, don’t encourage that immaturity. But something else, who cares?
For example , I remember someone eating a lemon. I guess that he did it for attention, because I can’t think of any other reason someone would do it. Maybe I’m right, maybe not, but the point is let’s assume it was for attention. Is there any reason I have to ignore him because he’s “just doing it for attention?” Who cares?

If someone asks you to borrow money so he can buy candy, do you purposely not lend him so he’ll grow up?

“people crave attention”
Why is that?

“a few times a week that somebody wants to show me some clip on their phone or demands that a listen to some song (isn’t it great?). this is beyond all pale of normalcy and must be purged from our society asap.”
What’s the matter? Technology? or it’s too often?

“maybe people realize that sometimes giving attention to those who crave it may create a pattern of emotional dependency where they keep coming back to you for more in desperation”

I would hear that but it doesn’t make sense that people tell others “shh. he’s just doing it for attention.” Are they that considered about others being the attention-seeker’s desperation korban?
Also, they’ll say things like “Don’t do xyzzy, if u want attention, say “I want attention.” That sounds like their just being balei gavia like user176 said, that they have to prove they know the motive behind everyone’s actions.

“Like that friend that always makes the joke and immediately looks at you to see your reaction. Not everyone enjoys that”
Spot on! But i feel ppl are more likely to give a chesed laugh to a stupid joke than give attention to someone seeking it. And i never heard someone say, “don’t laugh at his stupid joke.” if they don’t want to laugh, fine, they’re not stopping anyone else from it.