Reply To: what is the origin of chanukah gifts?

I made an error – the last teshuva says a kiddush is fine, and not worse than making a kidush for any other simcha, even with saying some words for the bas mitzvah, is all fine. He says that if one can abolish the bas mitzvah celebration itself (not kiddush) in shul without making a machlokes or “zilusa” then it is a good thing to do, but not if it will cause a machlokes or “zilusa”