” and they don’t need to dress up and walk just to sit and wait until everyone comes in and have a small talk ”
you have a very sad view of what goes on in the schools (shuls, communities). Is this just a hundred bad luck incidents you have had or is it your perspective? If this is your vision of school and why online is better, or that school is all about “teaching girls chumras and telling your mom she’s wrong” then I would implore you to find some other communities out there, or at least come to terms with the fact that your experiences are really poor examples of what’s out there.