Rav shach once had a talmid who was from a chasidishe background, but had gravitated to the litvishe world. He was having a hard time in shidduchim, because he was too chasidish for the litvish and too litvishe for the chasidim. He asked the rosh yeshiva if he could put on a short jacket, to make the transition more noticeable and try to get rehdt to litvishe families. Rav Shach told him that a short jacket is not a chisaron, but there is a naalah to wearing a long one, as this is what jews wore for generations and it is more tznius. To change in any way that is lowering a madrega for Shidduchim, says rav shach, is not hishtadlus.
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