Syag > These parent put more emphasis on the academics that their children learn, then they put on the hashkafos they learn.
I think I understood you. I agree that this problem exists. I just don’t agree that it has to be so bad. I presume, you go to stores, cook your food, and have more than one change of clothes. How much are you fretting that your family prioritizes food over learning Torah? I presume that someone in your family goes to work? Is he/she prioritizing work over learning? As I said before, our community did admirable job counteracting assimilation and desire to be “like Joneses”. This was appropriate, following Rambam’s approach – if you have a wrong midah, you need temporarily (sic!) go to another extreme until you train yourself and then return to the “golden middle”. Same with the community as a whole – in the process of defending from assimilation, our communities became distorted not just economically, but also hashkofically in terms of how we live our lives. Gemora already said that “many followed Rashbi and were not successful”. So, if we have already 2-3 generations that have distorted values, we will not preserve the Torah of previous generation, but a perverse version of it.