Reply To: Parents and singles

Al pi Halacha, a child is not obligated to listen to their parents when they tell them to marry or not to marry someone.

During the reference calls, 100% of the questions being asked by parents have nothing to do with marriage. So having experience being married means nothing, and the the reference calls should only be carried out by the singles.

A few years ago at the Agudah Convention, Rabbi Paysach Krohn said that the shidduch crisis will be solved quickly with a “Hands-Off approach” towards the parents of singles.

And adding parents as a third-party go between is not more efficient than singles simply having shadchanim sit between them.
So why do people pretend that letting singles fend for themselves while being mediated by shadchanim has the potential to be more disastrous than Shabsai Zvi?