My answer to your question (regardless of whether you agree with me or not) is that just because someone doesn’t do something- it doesn’t mean that they’re extremely lazy. I had my parents do the research because I didn’t have the time and they were able to do a better job at it.
You seem to be stuck on your opinion that anyone who doesn’t do their own research is extremely lazy so I brought in a different scenario regarding the hiring manager who has HR do the research because they can do it better, faster and more efficiently.
Let me ask you some questions-
Do you bring your garbage to the city dump or do you let the sanitation department pick it up?
Do you pick up your mail from the Post Office or do you have the USPS deliver it?
Does that mean that your extremely lazy or that you let them do it because it saves you time and money?
Even if they were extremely lazy why does that bother you- just don’t go out with them?
I’m going to assume that you were being sarcastic in your last post but in case you weren’t I’ll give you a serious response.
While I was dating I was learning in an out of town Yeshiva. Except in the rare situation where I was dating someone local a typical date cost me around $150 and took up around 36 hours of my time. Far more than the one hour (or many times a mere few minutes) that it took for my parents to do the research and determine that someone wasn’t for me.
Also, from a בן אדם לחברו point of view- I thought it was extremely unfair when someone said no to me and gave a reason that they could have easily inquired and found out before the first date.
I can’t fathom the עונש in the next world for someone who does this on a regular basis and causes avoidable hurt feelings to people at such a sensitive time in their life.