Dear Avram,
“So why can’t questions be asked and answers given, without hostility and hatred?”
I’m not sure if this is aimed at me or the topic. Either way, I do not understand how this fits with the rest of your post. To answer: I have no idea. I’m not against anybody here. If you need a theory, there seems to be an elitist bent. With Chabad claiming a higher understanding of God’s world. And the Yeshivish (? is this accurate ?) anti Chabad claiming to know how and why Chabad is out of the Pale. But of course, there is a respectable way to ask. Just don’t ask me for advice. I’m not a model of respect. I’m working on it..