“he is just not for me” is exactly what it means. It doesn’t mean that there’s anything wrong with your son, just that something the girl wanted wasn’t there. Or she saw or heard something she didn’t want. Lashon Hara and Rechilus could be factors. It could be something silly like your son’s appearance or voice reminded her of someone with whom she had a bad experience – which has nothing to do with your son. Or her friend got engaged to a certain type of guy and she wants someone “similar”, whatever that means. It’s possible that that the entire circle of maidlach your son is seeing has skewed expectations for a choson. Also older girls (and boys) can become set in their ways with a very narrow-minded view of who their bashert will be. There’s nothing to worry about. Tell your son to keep dating – the dating itself is a learning experience – and the right girl will surface.
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