‘Are we to expect a frum man to be so fickle as to have no control of where his eyes roam?! Maybe learn self control to a degree…”
Ayin is gematria “kal,” because of how effortlessly and swiftly they move and roam. Imagine being extremely hungry and smelling a steak, then being told that not only are you not allowed to smell the steak,but you’re not even allowed to think about it!
Women have very little understanding of men’s challenges; men have little understanding of the daily constant challenge women face to be tznius. Women since high school say “why is it my problem? I want to dress in a provocative way (that’s defined by how men perceive them…)” Men say “what’s the big deal? Just cover up! I wish my whole yiddishkeit was able to be fulfilled by wearing long sleeves and skirts…”
Both are wrong, but a woman’s complaint will leave to broken communities, families, neshomos, and of course being taken to task for any men she was machshil, since it’s lifnei iver.
But seriously, girls talk this way in high school much like they’ll ask “why is it lashon hora if it’s true!” If you’re frum, accept the torah’s view on tznius even if you don’t like it, and even if you don’t like the idea of being a guardian for men you’ve never met.