“MY point is that unless able to earn a living a couple has no business getting married.”
My point is that you have control over your offspring. You are raising them according to your beliefs. Many people believe differently. Just like you can choose which store to shop at and which brands to buy, you can also choose which charities you wish to support. But even if you are passionate about your reasons for not shopping at Kmart or Bergdorf Goodman, those businesses serve their demographics.
Your chinuch preferences are yours to make but saying that everyone else is wrong seems close-minded.