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AAQ > Far be it from me to argue with Chazal. While I think there’s merit to the logic that someone’s economic status can be a factor in compatibility, “character” is much more important. I know my wife, who comes from a family with higher economic status, appreciates and respects me more than someone else I could have been married to, with a lower status. “Same’ach B’chelko” is a large part of this as well as general Derech Eretz.
So not surprisingly, I have great contempt for the “Shidduch Resume”. Sure, I would counsel someone to look at a potential spouse’s location and education level but not much else. If I think there’s a POTENTIAL for like-mindedness, then I would want to meet the “candidate” and then the candidate’s family multiple times before making a decision. I really don’t think the Shidduch Resume would make that process more efficient. A Shidduch Resume would never reveal potential red flags which may be more critical than “Yichus”, so why bother.