(nobody brought those to the contrary so far, I’d love to see those),
are you talking about arguing your claim that one should not accept tzedaka? If so it has been argued repeatedly that no halachik authority deems benefits as tzedaka. You yourself are gaslighting with this claim, you falsely refer to benefits as tzedaka, and use that to accuse people of accepting tzedaka. That is the definition of gaslighting. The odd part is that you seem to be falling for it yourself. I guess when you are so bias against of a group of people you can even fool yourself to further your bias.