So we should lower a tznius standard? Get men and women to mingle instead of having intermediaries?
See tiferes yisroel on the mishanh in r”h about the women congregating on yom kippur and tu b’av – he says it’s unthinkable that such practices would happen in the mainstream, and that this was for people who were struggling to find a shidduch.
I have a better solution. Bochurim should have better middos and women should stop reading romance novels, and tossing away good shidduchim when they don’t automatically “feel ” sparks flying.
People used to get married without even dating, and it worked just fine. Chasidim still do, and they have far fewer divorces than us litvishe who date. It can’t be all wiped away with “that’s because it’s a taboo” – what’s the proof of that?