syag, something tells me you wouldn’t have a problem with my statement that bochurim need to work on their middos. Obviously not everyone does, but I think it’s common knowledge that bad middos are a major hindrance in finding a shidduch, especially with boys who present themselves as being “my way or the highway.”
It’s also common knowledge that women break off shidduchim more often than men. The reasons for this are many, but the influence of romance and fantasy-thinking has a lot to do with it.
Women also have a picture in their mind from the time they’re young children of what their wedding and their husband will be like; you’ll see girls pretending to be kallos a lot, and that often stays with them.
Boys don’t think much about marriage until they’re almost ready to start dating, and their list of requirements are a lot shorter.
I don’t know what about this is lashon hora or motzish”ra