“syag, something tells me you wouldn’t have a problem with my statement that bochurim need to work on their middos.”
I have no problem with vague generalities that apply to everyone. that is correct.
“but I think it’s common knowledge that bad middos are a major hindrance in finding a shidduch,
common knowledge? really? that is exactly the kind of comment I cannot agree with. I will not make a sweeping negative comment about bochurim, let alone call it “common knowledge”.
Here’s the deal. I keep harping on your comments because I believe you are unintentionally badmouthing jews, communities and presenting yourself as an authority on things. From your years of posts I gathered (not knowing if this is the reality or not) that you are a single male over twenty but closer to thirty (I’m pretty sure you said so yourself but I could be wrong).
Based on that, you give these all knowing comments about women, marriages and what the desires are of women and what they do wrong etc. As a single male, your exposure to women is a sister, aunt, mom and whoever you get redt to. Beyond that it is just hear say and spewing imaginary assumptions.
Hence my complaints about your comments on the failings of these Yidden. It is lashon hora and/or motzei shem rah to speak down on a group of jews. and to label it falsely as “common knmowledge” is sheker. This should concern you more than how many romance novels I have read (probably none. Not my thing).
If you really are an ex MO member who left, as you say, in grammar school after an awful debate issue, then your world wide conclusions are based on a hundred? two hundred? women who probably are mostly locals at that. That’s hardly a statistically sound demographic. And in the requirement to be dan lkaf zchus (by the way) you are obligated to make kinder conclusions, not embellished.