syag, you don’t know much about me and my activities; i don’t understand why you are certain that I’m going off of 3rd hand accounts.
As it happens to be, I work with single men, and on occasion, I work with the other side of a shidduch as well. Though I don’t do it very often, I’ve heard the same story over, and over again; he’s a great boy, has great middos, learns well, but “i didn’t feel anything”