Are you aware of the meaning of catch all phrase? These are not data, they are polite excuses. For you to count them up and use them as census is meaningless.
I don’t need a measure of ability in my mind to dismiss your observations. I am able to see what’s out there myself and I see how much it varies in different places. What I dismiss is your chutzpah in thinking you have enough knowledge of women to make negative conclusions and call them common knowledge. It is still motzei shem rah and you seem to avoid acknowledging that.