What’s lame about the way chazal view a chossons impression of the kallah, to the point that they suspended important gezeros to fit it?
You’re lacking subtlety and just saying that it’s fragility, and it shouldn’t be a deal breaker – i never said it’s a deal breaker, you put those words in my mouth, er, fingertips. What i said is that it’s harmful to the shidduch. I would never tell a boy to say no because of it.