“What’s lame about the way chazal view a chossons impression of the kallah,”
Chazal didn’t say that if the girl didn’t present as promised he would think she was dishonest and be shattered, that was you who said it and then you tried to bring chazal to support it, but it doesn’t.
“You’re lacking subtlety and just saying that it’s fragility, and it shouldn’t be a deal breaker”
Uh, no. I didn’t. I said that a mature adult who is ready for marriage will not respond in the manner you presented. And I stand by it. Changing around the words we wrote to be something chazal said is just you not wanting to ever say you misspoke or accept another opinion.