@n0mesorah This kind of is the first generation of kids to be raised in Lakewood. Certainly the first generation where the only option is a Mesivta with “Gemara, Gemara, and Gemara” as you put it.
Kids who are struggling academically since 10 need options. In some communities, there are no options and when they grow older and realize this, they act out. Nothing you said contradicts this and much of what you’ve said even reinforces it.