Avram > And perhaps you’re putting too much of the parents’ job onto the rebbe
This is an interesting point. So, the “rebbe”‘s job is to teach the kid “Torah” and the parents’ job to teach the rest of the Torah?! See Beitza 25 – Hashem gave us Torah to train us in Derech Eretz so that we use it when dealing with others. I know this Gemora is somewhat extreme, there are milder version of the same.