Can’t speak for every city since I am only in Chicago, but i believe this is true in many places.
Generaly people are very happy and feel very comfortable.
(In Chicago you have the “Veitzener Cheder” that is run by R’ Moshe Yossel Unger-The Veitzener Rav of Chicago. The cheder is very yeshivish and has a presense of chassidishe boys as well. They do have a couple chassidishe rebbes. They try to incorporate yiddish as well.)
One of the benefits of living out of town is that the general atmosphere is very accepting (and relaxed), and there is more room for people to be unique.
The saying goes that chinuch is at home. If children grow up in a healthy home they can feel comfortable doing things different than some of their friends, or have different standards about different things.
One might say that that is one of the major pluses of the out of town atmosphere.
To be able to grow up with a healthy and confident feeling about what you/your family does. (And not just because everyone is doing it.)
It might be hard for an in-towner to visualize, but chassidishe boys out of town do grow up with a very healthy feeling about who they are and what they do.
The bottom line is that from what I know people are happy.